Last weekend was kind of a big deal to us. You see, my son Matthew has been using his dodie, some call it soother, others call it dummy, for over four years. To some mums this is quite a long time. To speech therapists and public health nurses it’s a no no. Each to their own. I personally wasn’t ready to give it up at the age of two when I initially wanted to give it away. He didn’t have the speech, he didn’t understand what giving it away means.
He soon got attached to it more and I pushed it out further and further. Christmas 2015 came along and I wanted to give it away to Santa. But you know the way Christmas goes. Everyone is so cosy, you don’t want to change a habit, keep everything the same and just enjoy the time together. Guess what? I dragged it out even further. It got to a point now where I was thinking around his fourth birthday it really needs to go.
Then another excuse came into my head. We are moving house soon. I got it into my head that he needs the comfort when we move and he is going to sleep in a complete different environment.No Janine, I thought to myself, this is just making up another excuse to push it out again.So I put an end to it. Plus the two dodies were kind of disgusting looking. They are latex ones. He only likes those and my bestie from Germany has been sending them over up until now.
Around two to three weeks ago I started talking about the dodie fairy. I explained to him that the dodie fairy was visiting soon to pick up his dodies and bring them to the babies. I said to him that he is such a big boy now that he doesn’t need his dodies anymore but the babies out there really need them. This is the story we told them everyday. The last week he has been telling me about it himself. “Mammy, the dodie fairy is coming to bring the dodie to the babies“. Well that was a good start.
Hubby was home from his three trip to Dublin so I decided to start this Friday night. I got out an envelope. Before we put the two dodies in and closed it, I got him involved in decorating the envelope himself for the dodie fairy. He loved it.He wanted me to draw a star and a heart and he coloured them in. He was happy with that. We put the dodies in the envelope, closed it up and left it at the door for the fairy for the night before bedtime.
When it was time to go to sleep after I read him his usual story, there was a whinge here and there and he asked me about his dodie. But I said to him that the dodie fairy is going to get them when he is asleep and when he wakes up he is going to have a present from her instead. We went through the Smyths catalogue and he picked out something he wanted.I picked it up the next day.
The day came. Not only he slept without a dodie, but he also slept in his own bed all night. He started picking up coming into our bed for quite some time during the night. I thought it might be because of jealousy now that Chloe is here, but I read it from so many other mums. He asked for a sticker. So now I created a reward chart. Every night he stays in his own bed, he receives a sticker. So far he has three. Once he reaches ten I will get him a surprise but I haven’t decided what yet. I don’t want it to be anything big because can you imagine after every ten stickers?
I came upstairs to Matthew and he checked outside the bedroom door what the dodie fairy brought him. He was so happy and smiley. He absolutely loved it. He was very proud of himself I’d say. He got a transformer toy that transforms into a police car but it also comes with a trailer that can be used as a claw to grab things. Another small thing was a hot wheels Super Mario Bros. car. He wasn’t too interested in that but he started playing with it now. He likes Mario, that’s why I thought it would be cute.
It’s Tuesday evening, 9pm as I write this and it’s night five since he has been sleeping without a dodie. He has stopped asking about it since night three which is brilliant. I thought it would take a bit longer the fact that he had it for so long. I am really proud of my little boy and it is another milestone we reached. It’s sad to see the dodie go. It gave him so much comfort over the last few years. But we all know it can be bad for the teeth so I am glad we have this behind us.